How Your Cell Phone Hurts Your Relationship
Technology can connect us to the world, but in the same time can separate us from each other. How in touch we are with each other? How the cell phones effect our relationship and why? In the article" How Your Cell Phone Hurts Your Relationship" Helen Lee Lin states that using a cell phone or having nearby can harm our relationship. From Weinsteins' experiment between pairs of strangers results that presence of the cell phone impacted lower relationship quality and can affect on interpersonal relationship which can lead in less trust and empathy in situation in which the participants discussed something meaningful or casual.At the end, the author advises that we should forget for little bit the cell phones and spending a lot of time with people who we care and communicate with them face to face.Using a lot cell phone hurts us because we forget to communicate face to face, leads less trust and empathy and lower relationship quality. Using the cell phone we forget to communicate face to face.The relationship will gradually begin to fall apart once the text messages has been reached , because text ting can go too far . Texting, calling or Skype are not the same as talking face to face because by texting our thoughts are short. It is okay to text sometimes but when it is always cause problems in the relationship, it can lead in misunderstanding. I remember many years ago my best friend always was busy and for her was easy to text, send pictures,to write comments or Skype.For me was the opposite because I hated the text messages. Not only that but I couldn't spend time to write.I figure out that my relationship was a text messages and not communication face to face.My example shows that I like to communicate face to face with the person who I am talking and to see the facial expression like smiling because of that I can satisfy my conversation. It is true when the author say that "Cell phone usage can reduce our social consciousness",because cell phone can reduce our relationship in misunderstanding which lead in separation.I can say that wide spread of cell phone and text messages are hurting humans communication , not help it. Cell phone can lead in less trust and less empathy.Texting a lot can lead in disrespect,short conversation and dislike. I remember last month my friend and me after class we went to the restaurant for pizza. During our conversation another friend sent to her a link on Facebook. She was distracted by the link , was laughing and was texting to her friend.Because of that situation fast I ate the pizza and I said to my friend I was leaving .From that day I never went to eat with her. I understood that her action was disrespect.I cannot trust her anymore and I feel empathy for her. This example shows that when someone doesn't care for you or not respect you , you feel less trust and don't like him/her anymore and you try to be short in any conversation.Disrespect for each other can lead in less trust and less empathy.As the author mentions that "cell phone presents less empathy and less trust ", it is true Respect in relationship is the most important , but replace with a message or link is disrespect.
Finally cell phone leads in lower relationship quality.Having a cellphone nearby during the day with friends leads in poor relationship.Imagine a couple who have a conversation and the wife needs some advice from her husband . He doesn't pay attention on her conversation because he is distracted from his cell phone which is on the table and his answer is What did you say? My hypothetical example shows that Having a cell phone nearby make our relationship poor. When this kind of situation take place in our relationships our relationships go away.As the author mention that "simply having a phone nearby without even checking it , can harm the relationship", it is true people give importance cell phone than their relationship and as a result their relationship leads in poor and not closeness. In conclusion I want to say that Helen Lee Lin is right that people can prepare for important conversations and throw their cell phones into the closet or leave in the car and spend the day with people you really care about , because of this they can have a good and strong relationship.
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