In “How Your
Cell Phone Hurts Your Relationships, ” Helen Lee Lin states that
the relationships between people can be hurt if the phones are
present around in their conversation area. Moreover, according to
research it shows that people can not trust each other, and can't
feel closeness to each other if the cellphone is present in their
sight. Furthermore, the past studies also show that using cellphones
may make us pay attention less to our social awareness, and current environment. The author is right. If we have phones in our hands
while we are in conversations, both parties may feel doubt and cant
communicate effectively.
Personally, I don't
want to talk with friends who busy with their phones because even though I talk to them, I am not sure they are listening to me.
That kind of event happened to me, once my friend and I came back
from school and took a bus together. Meanwhile, we were talking to
each other about our class work and school. But the thing which I
disliked was that he was always checking his cell phone. I felt like
he didn't pay attention to our conversations, and I had dilemma about
whether to talk him or not, and I became doubt on him. Moreover, I
don't feel I am wrong because according to the research from the
article it shows me that I am right. In that research the researcher
asked a pair of strangers to discuss interesting events. He also placed cellphones near their conversation area. After their
conversation was done, the researcher gave them questionnaires about
their feelings about each other while cell phone was present near
them. Their answers were same as mine, they didn't feel close to each
other, and feeling less trusting.
Furthermore, I don't
want to blame my friend because even myself will pay less attention
to current environment while I have my phone in my hand. My
unconscious mind is attached to my phone even though I am
communicating with other people. This mostly happens when I send text
message from my phone before I have to physically communicated with
another friend. I always pull back my attention from my ongoing
conversation on my phone. So, I can't really concentrate on our
conversation between us. In addition, according to research from the
article it show that too “because of the many social instrumental,
and entertainment options phone afford us, they often divert our
attention from our current environment, whether we are speeding down
a high way or sitting through a meeting.”
In conclusion, if
we want to have a good conversation with friend and feel closer. We
should keep our phone away.
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